The story of “happily ever after” is a very true myth. . . in every sense of the blatant oxymoron.

This past week, Richie and I had a very significant paradigm shift as it relates to a certain area of our marriage. It was SO eye opening that I simply had to share my thoughts on the matter, if for no other reason than so as not to forget them myself. . .

To be obnoxiously vague: for the last 5 years, Richie and I have struggled to see eye to eye on a certain topic in our lives together. It’s a fairly serious issue, and our inability to navigate it in unity has caused each of us tremendous frustration. It has unwittingly complicated many discussions and has very much clouded our ability to work through certain other, very normal, day to day occurrences in our lives. No fun, at all.

A few days ago, we were dancing around the issue (as we had a tendency to do, so as to avoid unnecessary argument) when Richie happened to explain something to me in a way he’d never done before. They were a few simple words: “You know what I’m working towards.” BAM! Those words hit me like lightening and completely changed my paradigm. Suddenly we were a team. Suddenly we were working together toward something very real, and RIDICULOUSLY important to both of us. In those 6 words, we found unity, we found commitment, we found focus, we found rest.

We had discovered the ability to walk together through this “thing”, completely trusting one another’s intentions and being ABSOLUTELY grateful for each other’s company.

One of the most important things we discuss at The Breathe Intensive, is the necessity of clearly defined expectations and roles between husband and wife. These roles/goals will most definitely differ from one family to the next, but their presence is essential to the overall happiness and success of each and every family on the planet.

This week, I took my own advice, and got on the same page as the man I love. It has made all the difference.

Richie, so grateful to be walking this path by YOUR side. xo, Nat Nat

PS. All y’all: post on frizz free curls coming later this evening. Stay tuned!